Working With You

“Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love.”
— Rilke 

Working With You

In our meetings, we will aim at a holistic change process on an intellectual, but also on a visceral and emotional level. You will be offered guidance on how to address the unique challenges of feeling and living intensely. I will also give you exercises that you can implement in-between sessions to consolidate the insights and learnings.

We may address the past, the pain of alienation and not fitting in, emotional triggers, and the body-mind disconnection. But this work is not just about healing, but also thriving. Thus, we will talk about your hopes and dreams, your inner strengths, your career, friendships, community, and most importantly how to harness your creative potential so you can feel fully alive.

Please note that I no longer offer mental health counselling. Currently, I am focusing on building my coaching practice. For more information, please refer to the roadmap.

 

How Do We Meet?

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We will be meeting online.

I work with people from around the world, and will always work to accommodate our time differences.

For the meetings, we can use Skype, Zoom, or doxy— a secure platform that uses end-to-end encryption.

 

 

 

Meeting Online

In the digital age that we live in, we have lost certain structures and stability, but at the same time, technology gives us new options. Many clients and coaches are now meeting online through applications such as Zoom or other virtual platforms.

Because of the lack of general awareness, even amongst mental health professionals, of ‘neuro-atypical traits such as high sensitivity and giftedness, any emotionally intense people have been wrongly pathologized all their lives. You might have been passed from one service to another, from one diagnosis to another. Being mislabelled and misdiagnosed is not only unhelpful, but can erode your self-esteem and sense of agency, which is the last thing you need when you are seeking understanding, healing, and ways to fulfil your potential.

Just like how you can now find your tribe across the world, online working allows you to access a worldwide community of helping professionals. You are now free to look for someone whose work suits your needs as a unique person, or whose words you have a deep resonance with. Rather than being limited geographically, you now have the option to have a transformative relationship with whom you can genuinely relate.

Since it is relatively new, some people render online work as second best to in-person meetings. Research, however, has found that online consulting can be as effective as face-to-face ones. In fact, there are times when online work can bring out a level of depth and progress that an in-person session cannot.

When you enter a transformational process, you do not only bring your logical ‘adult self’ into space but also a younger, more raw version of yourself. Your ‘inner child’ yearns for a real emotional bond and delicate psychological holding.  This intuitive part of you notices all the nuances and subtleties and decides whether or not you can trust someone and open up. In this realm of authentic, unspoken connection, your consultant or coach cannot hide behind a facade of professionalism. Ultimately, it is their humanness and genuine acceptance, rather than their qualifications or pretty websites, that matters.

Many people have found meeting from home allows them to feel safer. Opening your life story up to someone new is never easy, especially if your early experience had not allowed you to develop a sense of safety and security in the world. Being in the comfort of your own home can enable you to feel more at ease and in control, so you can open up at your readiness. 

Although we cannot see each others’ full bodies, we also get to cut out unnecessary distractions. I can focus on other subtle details such as your tone of voice and changes in your facial expressions, which can be incredibly useful. In fact, the up-close focus of a video call can sometimes feel more intimate than an actual face-to-face session.

Seeing you in your private space allows me to enter into your world more directly, and having someone with you in the here-and-now of your internal and life battles may alleviate the loneliness many sensitive and intense individuals have carried all their lives.

In a nutshell, online coaching or consultation is no longer the second-best solution. With its own merits, it is something that is different from, but not inferior to face-to-face work.

 

How Often?

I do not have a fixed rule about the frequency of our meetings.

The old gold standard of having weekly (or more frequent) sessions is arbitrary and does not reflect authentic and unique individual needs. Yes, sometimes having some regularity can help us settle into an emotional rhythm. However, in our fast-moving modern world where you might already feel stretched in multiple directions with financial, life, and work demands, a weekly set-time schedule may seem undoable.

Indeed, entering this work is not a light undertaking- financially, emotionally, and pragmatically. At the same time, nothing is more important than investing in yourself and building a solid foundation for your relationship and creative endeavours in life.

If we were to meet less frequently, I might offer certain ‘reflection prompts,’ specific homework or exercises, so that the work continues in-between sessions.

 

How Much?

It will be GBP 160 per session.

After booking the first session, you will receive an email confirmation with all the logistical details.

Using a credit or debit card, you can book your session with a secure online process.

With less than 24-hour notice, my cancellation policy is to collect the agreed amount of payment.

 

For How Long?

The duration very much depends on what you are after. Some people just want one or a few consultations for specific issues, others sign up for a course of 8-10 sessions, or longer-term, open-ended work.

I understand your desire to get better fast. You may have read online or in books that there is no ‘quick fix’ for the particular issue you face. This may be true, but it is entirely possible to attain deep insights or experience rapid shifts in a short period of time. These shifts can then be consolidated via other means, such as less-frequent follow-up sessions, books, email support from me, or being around the right people in your life.  Our goal is to effectively equip you with the needed insights and capacity, so you can be free to live a full life as soon as possible.

I encourage you to trust your instinct and the ability to discern. If you decide halfway through that it doesn’t work for you, you have the full right to withdraw and I will respect your decision.

I look forward to hearing from you!
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